Make sure you have thought about it and thought about it some more and after you have done that, think some more about what are the reasons for returing!!

If you are returning for your self and yourself only then fair enough.....you might regret it.....you might not.....but if you are returning out of guilt then think again!!

We returned for all the wrong reasons, family ties, blackmail off certain members of said family and now we regret it 100% and are coming cack to Oz in June although not to Adelaide. And believe me, its harder telling them the second time round!!

Remember the reason you went in the first place and keep that dream alive and live for you and your own family that are in Oz with you because believe me, if you are returning expecting all the rest of family and friends to have put their lifes on hold for you then you will be sadly mistaken.

If there is something you dont like about Adelaide, then try somewhere else first, dont just jump back on a plane and come back without doing something else first.

You probably think I am a nutter and ignore my rant, but if I help one of you then that will be good.

Take care everyone,

Libby XXXX

Wow, I can't believe you aren't settled Libby, I remeber some of your posts from Oz, and how much you wanted to go back.

It is good to get perspectives/advice from people who have done certain things.

I wish you all the best whereever you end up. :chuckle:

Hi Libby


I read your posts too, and Im so sorry to hear that it was not all you hoped it would be. Ive read so many threads like this on BE too, you are now officially a ping-pong Pom! So where in Oz will you go next and what made you chose there?

Lucy
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We are going to Queensland.

I dont mind being called a ping pong pom, better that than staying in the UK where we are not 100% happy. Plus I do like the odd game of ping pong!!

I thought it was Adelaide we were not happy with, but with hindesight, it was the situation with family......now we are back and nothing has changed we think we will be a lot better of over there.

We had to come back though to see, if you know what I mean....now we know, we will be better prepared (hopefully).

LibbyX

Good luck giving it another try.I think people do not give it a chance .I put my hands up because i have not done it yet but hey if you want something that bad you will get it in the end.

Wise words from a 5 year old!!!! :P

Libby I think you are even more brave than before, to realise that you were wrong to come back and then go out again is brilliant. Im sure you will be so much happier second time round as you know for sure now where you want to be. I wish you all the best.

Lucy
xxx

Well Libby I think you are very honest and couragous to speak up on here about how you are not settled and are coming back to Oz.

I wish youo every happiness in your new venture in Queensland and maybe you'll bump into Marie and have lots of parties!!!

good luck
C
XXX

Good luck Libby, I hope every thing works out well for you.

I know where you coming from in your post.
We returned back to the UK after living in the U.A.E for a couple of years.
Returning to the UK was the worst choice I have ever made.

When living away its very easy to see UK through rose tinted glasses.
I sure did, but coming back is some times harder than move away is.

I Think you should do what you feel is right for you at the time.

Its better to live with regret, than to live all the time wondering what if .

Enjoy Queensland.

Kerry













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Libby,

I was really affected by your post and your situation. Perhaps there's something about the move changing people; so even if you do return to the UK you're not the same person that left?

Good luck in Queensland - we've rellies there who wouldn't even think of living anywhere else - it is a beautiful place.

All the best,
Shane

I really do believe that is so true. You've had so many experiences along the way that somehow you are subtly changed. I know I am.

Best of luck to you Libby, I really hope you find your dream this time round.

:D Good luck Libby, I remember reading your posts when we first joined Adbrits, they really made me think good and hard,(didnt change my mind though!!!) but it did make me think harder about missing family and friends.
I'm sorry things didnt work out for you on your return, but I guess now you are more determined to succeed(sp?)
Good luck and best wishes
sarah :D

Hi Libby

Hope you are happy with Queensland and OZ second time around :dance:

Totally agree with you that if you dont like Adelaide then move and try somewhere else before getting on that plane home, we are moving to Perth very soon as i dislike Adelaide.

Di

I think you are right when you say that you have to think of your own immediete family, we have relatives that have tried the guilt thing with us but what keeps us motivated is that we are mainly moving to Oz for our 2 boys, which are our main priority. Just wonderin why your'e not returning to Adelaide and why you've chosen Queensland second time around? We can't decide whether to go Adelaide or Perth(I have relatives in Perth)

Think you've hit the nail on the head there Shane. It's not the friends/rellies in the U.K that have changed, it's the person returning.

Libby
The one positive you can pull out of all of this - is being able to return to Oz, but this time with a completely clear conscience and no nagging doubts to play horrible trick on you - it'll make a huge difference. Good luck with the return chick ;)

Desiree
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Hi Libby
Have to agree with Kerrys statement. Really hope things work out for you in Queensland.... :sign03: . :sign03:

Good luck and best wishes for your future

Keith Sharon & Jade ;)

Hi Libby,

Just wanted to say it's such a shame this has happened, :( families can be very unfair to each other at times, but I think that you are very brave to come on here and tell everyone else your story, because you're right, it might help someone else.

Great to hear you are coming back to Oz, you wanted to be here so much, i'm sure you will have a better time this time around. Good Luck.

Sarah x



Krazy K,

I think being away from the Uk has made me view it in an opposite way (to rose tinted). I didn't leave the Uk because I hated it or had any particular problems with it, but now I am here I can see many things about the uk I didn't see before.

The pressured school system, the constant tests and league tables, the fences, bolts and bars on the doors and gates.

The mindless teenage thugs, that would attack firemen whilst they are doing their job, ASBO's are all the rage now.

The political correctness gone mad, our Ozzie tourism advert featuring "Where the Bloody Hell are you?" has been banned from UK screens, one month after release.
And the whole Baa baa white sheep debarcle (sp?)

In my area particularly a large amount of assylum seekers, have crowded into our town making it no longer feel like the community it once was (and no, I am not racist.)

I don't hate the Uk, (far from it, I still miss it like crazy) and Australia has its own problems, but as has been said before, emigrating really opens a pandora's box and now although Australia doesn't feel like home yet, i'm not sure the Uk would anymore either.

Sunshine.

Hi,

As some of you may remember my hubby and I had an awful time in Adelaide as we were in the back of beyond and treated very badly by relatives. (arrived 28th Dec 2004!), well to cut a long story short we really reacted to this situation and nearly packed up and went back to the UK, in the sure knowledge that we'd be sleeping on my mothers lounge floor for the forseeable future.

My mother in laws friend offered to show us Queensland, in particular the Brisbane area, we flew up for a reccie only three weeks after arriving in Oz and never went back. This took alot of getting our heads around and whilst we are very much still in the settling in stage of our journey to Oz, we are soooooooo glad we didn't follow our original knee jerk reaction and go back to the UK.

For some reason we sort of thought if we didn't like Adelaide then we had to go back, now when I read of families travelling around Oz before they settle I think - go on you, what a fantastic idea. I know this isn't practicle for everyone but when you've come half way round the world you owe it to yourself and your family to find somewhere that suits you best.

Anyway........... Good luck to everyone struggling to settle in and make those changes - and welcome back to the Ping Pong Poms.

Tracey

Hi Libby,

Just want to wish you all the very best, Queensland is lovely infact it was our first choice but having said that I fallen in love with Adelaide.

Please pop in now & again & keep us updated, all the best Libby :D

Hi Libby
I remember seeing your post on BE saying you were going back to UK and I was so envious as I too was struggling and wanted to go home - if I hadn't been pregnant at the time I would have been back by now. Needless to say I am glad I didn't return as I have now settled here and I have no desire to go back.
I want to wish you good luck on your return to Australia and hope everything works out well for you and your family.
Jo

Libby and family

Good luck on your new adventure. It does not seem 5 minutes since I viewed your Sportswagon that was for sale prior to your move back.

Enjoy the sunshine on the sunshine coast and may you only ever get on a plane again with a few holiday suitcases.

Best wishes

David

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Thanks Libby for posting your thoughts. Having heard recently again about someone who is going back after an emotional visit to family over in the UK, it just makes my heart break, because I know how dangerous it is to make decisions with your heart instead of your head. People need to remember that we "lose" all our friends and family when we leave, but life still goes on pretty normally for those you left behind, no matter what kind of blackmail they try on you... It's the hardest thing on earth sometime to be so far from family, but even harder to realise that life has trundled on pretty much like always for them in the meantime, while we have been through a life-changing experience (and I don't care what anyone says, it is!). To go through such an upheavel again, with all the accompanying emotions etc. only to land right back in the same old same old, only to realise that no one is exactly rolling out the red carpet for you, is just too upsetting.

It's really hard for us to have to start all over yet again within 7 years of leaving our "mother country", I can't even imagine how hard it must be to have to do that within the space of only a few months..... good luck and good on you.

Hi Libby, I knew Belper'd get to you in the end - you'd forgotten what snow that close to the penines was like hadn't you! :P

Sorry it didn't work out for you back there though and good luck in Queensland. You never know, if we ever make it up to Queensland we might drop in for a Derbyshire reminisce (sp?!).

Take care

Jo :)

Thankyou for all your support.

I know you can not tell anyone what to do as I had lots of advice to tell me to stick it out, but if it helps one person from making the same mistake as me then thats great.

Thanks again,

Libby John Kyle & Katie

The ping pong poms with itchy feet........roll on June!!!!!

BTW Libby I think your 'Boris' is living under my pergola now!



Good luck in Queensland.

OMG you can keep him in Wizzywozza, he was a beast.

LibbyXX

good luck with it, and hopefully this time you can enjoy this beautiful, lucky country.

Libby,

We're moving out to Adelaide on 29/3 and having read your posts it's convinced me that we are right to leave the Derbyshire hills (Matlock) for a new beginning.

Hope it works out in Queensland.

Stu

Libby

Like all the others I remember your posts, esp those talking about your return to the UK.

Everyone says it takes courage to leave in the first place - girl you've got it by the truck load!!! I really admire you for turning again, can't imagine how hard that must have been.

BTW you can also now been known as a Boomerang Pom!!

Good luck to you all in Queensland - remember to pop on to AdBrits every now and again to keep us up to date. Really hope everything works out for you.

Take care

Heather x

Well guys,
I would not give in to blackmail, no matter what, if you don`t like Adelaide then try another state its much cheaper than going back to the uK.

Anyone thats been on this site for a while will know how I love oz, Fred and I have been here almost 16yrs and wouldn`t live anywhere else, wouldn`t dream of going back to the uK, and to be quite honest it wouldn`t bother me if I never went back, ( can`t speak for Fred, as I know some day he will have to,( his mom is getting on in years )

Give the other states a go even if its for a holiday

My sisters been here for a week and she says already I don`t want to go back to the UK

OK guys whats Australia got that the UK hasn`t

Look forward to your comments

Good and bad expected


Libby

glad to see you`ve seen the light, Good on ya, hope your return is every thing you hope for


Sheila

Good Luck with the move back to Oz, Libby & family.


Let us know how you are getting on.


Mandy :bouncy:

Well Done you for going for it again instead of putting up with the UK

You go for it

:sign03: DEBBIE