Sorry to hear about your mother. My mother has cancer. You have been quite ingenious in making a pond from what you had. Here are a few thoughts.
Keep an eye on the painter's tarp. It could get holes easily. Also, hopefully it was not treated chemically and is just plastic.
Using the actual beach sand may not be a great idea. First, being actual sand, it's going to contain microlife from the ocean. Once out of the salt water, that life will die, smell, and rot. Second, sand filters clog really easily and may require a lot of work to keep them flowing. Third, the sand will probably channel meaning most of the water will go through a mini stream made through it while the other areas become anaerobic (low in oxygen and stagnant) were bad bacteria will grow and again, stink. Just keep an eye on the system. If it goes bad, I would instead fill the filter with something with a good surface area. For low cost things, consider hair curlers, plastic army men of all things, polyester fluff, and other plastic stuff.
If you live in an area that gets a real winter, the pleco will have to come in over the winter. If it's not very deep, the goldfish may need to come in as well.
A UV filter costs a lot of money. It kills anything that flows past the light. If you have a pre-filter (filter material) around the pump, then larger insects and other animals wouldn't be harmed by the UV.
Good luck! Your pond is so unique! You should post it to my new free pond site -
http://www.pondshowcase.com