Okay heres the situation: I haven't dated a guy in while, okay a long time. Primarily because my last boyfriend was so messed up in every conceivable way after I broke up with him I vowed never to date somebody like that again. The problem is now I don't compromise at all when it comes to persepctive boyfriends, I just won't settle because I don't want to have deal with all that BS anymore.

Okay heres the advice part: Because I haven't dated in a while my friends have this annoying tendency to freak out whenever I meet a new guy, even when its just a friend and ask all these questions like "do you like him" "does he like you" etc etc. Seriously I am 21, not 13, how come everytime I meet a person who happens to be male my friends get all excited and think that I should date him. This is getting to be quite obnoxious, I know they're doing it because they want to see me happy with a nice boy friend but its starting to get on my nerves.

Example: I got a new neighbor in my apartment building. Hes a really cool guy, and really into anime so we lend each other anime all the time and hang out on occasion. I am not interested in him whatsoever, hes just a cool guy to have as friend. Last week me and a few of my friends were heading up the stairs to my apartment while my neighbor was heading down the stairs. I said hi to him and he did the same. As soon as he was gone my friends all erupted with questions "Oh whos that!" "Do you like him?!" "You can totally tell he has a crush on you!!" etc etc.

I have tried explaining to them (my mom also does this) and they all say "okay okay" but in a coy kinda way, like I'm just denying that I'm into all these random guys all over the place. All my friends are allowed to have guy friends (and my guy friends are allowed to have friends who are girls) without everyone trying to set them up, but for some reason whenever I even walk into the same room as a guy everyone freaks out.

Why do you guys think they do this, and what do you think I could do about it to get them to relax? Thanks for your advice guys, because this is seriously starting to drive me crazy. :wacko:

Dont worry about it, it will happen your whole life no mater what.

People are always like that no natter what, it will probebly drive you insane and you will do something crazy but I assure this is not the way to

Bah I say I have never been in a long term relationship they seem like to much wrok, and I am far to lazy, but I dont know. I say you just go about it on a normal basis and I am sure after a while they will cacth the drift you dont like the guy.

Thanks NGC, thats good solid advice I think. Although its annoying, people have a tendency to want their friends to be happy, and apparently my friends think that by getting a boyfriend I will be, so they always are trying to make that happen. I guess theres not much I can do about it, at least they have good intentions..... I guess >grumble<

Long term relationships can be a lot of work, but I really believe that one of the best ways of knowing that you're with the right person is when it stops feeling like work and things just happen naturally and smoothly. In fact when things are nothing but "hard work" its a sign that things should be end and that that person isn't right for you.

We are so in the same boat right now emeraldartemis. My friends and parents are exactly the same way. Constantly trying to set me up with the next available guy that wasn't a complete A-Hole. It drives me crazy too but I guess I've got used to it because I more or less ignore it now. My friends will bring up someone they think I should be intrested in and I'll give them the "meh, he's alright I guess" type of deal and they think I don't give a hoot about him. Maybe they're giving up on me to some degree too because I've been saying "meh" to pretty much every guy I meet the past 3 years. Oh well, at least I don't have try and compramise with a boyfriend I don't want to be with... and besides to be honest I sort of enjoy the "Bachlorette" life...At least thats what I keep telling myself -_-

Its like your my long lost twin, because thats exactly the way I feel. But I agree with you, lifes too short to compromise on the big stuff. Don't get me wrong, nobody's perfect, but I'm not just gonna shack up with some goon so I can say I have a boyfriend. It really is good to hear I'm not the only single girl holding out for the good ones :lol:

I think half the time your friends may just be poking fun at you. However, I bet they just want to help you get a guy. Friends have a tendency to pair you up with people you don't, and probably don't want to like that way. Don't worry about it. There is no escaping it. D<

one of my friends used to do that....................... i never saw her again!

tee hee!

I think you should try to tell your friends straight up how you feel about it before it goes to far. Before it leads to emberassing/annoying situations for you and the guy they are trying to hook you up with. It might not be that easy depending on how stubborn your friends can be ;). That is.. if its worth the trouble to you and if its really something troublesome enough. It seems its just the somewhat constant annoyance from the whole situation that gets to you. If you dont see anything sad coming of it then maybe its not worth the trouble of convincing your friends to knock it off. If it is too annoying to handle sometimes, maybe tell them "I can determine who I like based on my own perspective".

Tell them to #### off, lmao, kiddin anyway just tell them to stop askin u, u 21 right so y they still ask, also i think u should get a boyfriend,lol up to u.

have they got boyfriends? maybe theyre just living through you..... teehee!

Well that one guy that I was talking about it particular (my neighbor who I just want to be friends with ) I recently found out hes gay, so my friends won't be able to bug me any more about him now! :P

Most of my friends who do this all the time are soon going to be leaving the state to go back to their respective colleges, so its not gonna be so bad in the immediate future. As far as it goes with convincing my mom to lay off. that will never happen, and I'm just gonna have to accept it. Shes always gonna hassle me about meeting guys and getting a boyfriend.

On a depressing note, the boyfriend who I make reference to in the beginning of this topic, the one who is the stupidest lamest guy EVER, now has a girlfriend!! I don't care who he dates, its not about that, I'm mad because it proves that EVERYBODY, even the most retarded people imaginable, are dating, in other words, everyone but me :(

Dating is over rated and if you ever do it you will simply find someone better directly after that (you wont think they are better at first but once you see the fualts in your partner, you will see that the second person corrects those fualts) and when you switch to the other person you will see they also have fualts, its a never ending vicious cycle of nothingness (or something like that)

It is fun to be single you are never tied down to any one person and or thing, and can essneitly talk to anyone you wish (without having another person breathing down your back)

the downside is for a long time my mother thought I was homosexual.

dont let it get to you, tons of people in this world dont have boyfriends or girlfriends, me amongst them. its only a matter of time, trust me, things will work out in the end

I guess you're right, and I am aware that dating is way over rated, thats why I don't just run out there and grab some random jerk just so I can say that I am dating.

:lol: LOL! NGC, that part about your mom thinking you were gay!!

Thanks to everyone for giving me such good advice, it was very nice of everyone who had input in this, thanks again. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy :wub: